Blog 11 The Trust “Secrets”

“Weaving The Story of Horse and Human”

Blog 11   June 14 2018

The TRUST ‘Secrets’

**Separate to this blog chapter, The Universe will always show and give you what you need, if you are openhearted and open minded –   2016 and 2017 found me sharing the same “The Universe” quote on Rhett’s wall, one day apart.

“Sometimes, when you’re feeling your lowest, the real you is summoned.  And you understand, maybe for the first time ever, how grand you are, because you discover that vulnerable doesn’t mean powerless, scared doesn’t mean lacking in beauty, and uncertainty doesn’t mean that you’re lost.

These realizations alone will set you on a journey that will take you far beyond what you used to think of as extraordinary.

There is always a bright side,

The Universe”

Interesting that, Blog 10, had to do with being and feeling vulnerable and the emotions that brings. If I went back and looked in our training journals for those years and dates, I probably would see that we had found more issues and challenges I’m not experienced in and I was feeling a bit unsure of myself and Rhett.

So in Rhett, (and myself), I had seen what was known and what wasn’t known with the cowboy .  Now it was my turn to see if I could learn a different ‘language’ than the cowboy used. That language was generally the ‘technique’ I also used with horses for training. (Learning Lesson)



The “Secret” is…. Trust

“Rethink what ‘preparing the soil for seeding’ means.” Rhett simply stated.

“What????” I thought.

“Trust” Rhett said.


“To see things in the seed, that is genius.” ~Lao Tzu


“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”                       ~Og Mandino

“Rethink what ‘preparing the soil for seeding’ means.” Rhett stated again. (Language Lesson)


This was the ‘Secret’ – Trust.   In a nutshell.   Directly from Rhett.  


Word forms: truststrustingtrusted 


If you trust someone, you believe that they are honest and sincere and will not deliberately do anything to harm you.

Your trust in someone is your belief that they are honest and sincere and will not deliberately do anything to harm you.

If you trust someone to do something, you believe that they will do it.

If you trust someone with something important or valuable, you allow them to look after it or deal with it.

If you do not trust something, you feel that it is not safe or reliable.

If you trust someone’s judgment or advice, you believe that it is good or right.

If you say you trust that something is true, you mean you hope and expect that it is true.

If you trust in someone or something, you believe strongly in them, and do not doubt their powers or their good intentions.

WHOA !!!   Trust is quite a responsibility.


How do we begin to develop trust between us?


‘Self’ Trust will be needed for us both.  

“Self-trust means that you can take care of your needs and safety.  It means you trust yourself to survive situations, and practice kindness, not perfection. It means you refuse to give up on yourself.”


Rhett stated Observe and Sense. We observe something when we become aware of it.  Understand that we don’t trust words.  We trust actions. Recognize the facts.  Recognize the questions.  Recognize the importance and quality of the lessons we will share.”   (Learning and Life Lessons)

He continued, “Acknowledge and send appreciation.  Become Aware.  To me, it’s important to recognize the facts and offers as genuine and valid between us.  Acknowledge and appreciate them.   Express gratitude for the language and gems you are receiving from me as I am grateful for your offers to me”.

Sense.   Observe.  Acknowledge.

Those were Rhett’s first three horse ‘secrets’ to creating mutual trust and begin a bond between horse and human.  That’s not at all what I thought or had been taught.  Where was the respect?  Where was leadership?   Where’s the control?





“How should we begin Rhett?”


“The Relationship.  The Relationship must be formed in Trust. The Relationship must be formed in Love.  Relationships are a two-way street, but we owe it to ourselves to learn how to shift from anger, frustration and rage into valuing, hearing, respecting and finding love with each other.”  Rhett said.

“You begin by learning and establishing the practice of love.  The secret to love is just kindness and generosity.  Love is about the communication of our hearts.” Rhett said.

Do you see your personal lesson(s) in this chapter of the story?

Next:  The Path…

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5 Replies to “Blog 11 The Trust “Secrets””

  1. This log 11 has stopped me in my tracks.

    I’ve been working my way through your blogs since I was introduced to your work by Dr. Bess.

    It’s been interesting, educational, thought provoking……but THIS is apparently where my work lies.

    I laughed out loud as I came to the connections of it being blog ELEVEN. My family just watched the movie “Us” two nights ago. On the surface it’s a sci fi thriller, but it’s really a deeply metaphoric work. After it ended we looked up the director and writers explanations and intentions. It generated a lot of discussion and our goddaughter, who is studying early childhood education, junior year, lead the conversation. Jeremiah 11:11 is referenced all through the movie.

    We summarized the passage as “ You f—-up, you need to be responsible for fixing it. Won’t be any rescuing going on here.”

    So… I am….following the bread crumbs . Seeking the best solutions for “fixing” the broken trust I have with my home raised boy.

    The work here is for me to do. I’ve been coming to this reality for a while now, but this morning, I think the egg just cracked.

    Thank you. Sincerely +++ thank you.

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